“Huh, basic child friendly! All desire must be fulfilled!” Frequently, we hear a sentence like that? However, the child is accused of spoiled, indeed truly pampered? Or just because their parents are giving children friendly label? Yuk, we see myths about spoiled children and an explanation of these myths.

Myth 1 : You will make a child so spoiled when too many tote. Sometimes children must be crying. Do not hold too often children.

Facts: With hold, does not mean that spoil the child. Babies need touch, hug, and they also need to tote. Babies cry because they are hungry, sick, urinating, or because you want to be. Pickaback your child and do as often as you can.

Myth 2 : Children can not grow with the growing feeling that they can always get anything they want.
Fact: It needs an effective example of parents in teaching children that they can not always get everything they want. It needs time and practice so that this can be achieved.

When you are shopping and the child says, “the mother, whether I can buy this toy?” give answers, “Of course, but how will you pay?” or “Why do you want these things?” Ask how much money that belongs to your child, or whether he will have to be put aside.

Our task as parents is to help children learn that they can get what they want when they want to work or trying to obtain. During this process they will learn how to overcome the problem, planning, the priorities, goals and achievements. They probably will learn and understand, the desire can be realized if the attempt. This phenomenon is also known as a responsibility to themselves.

Myth 3 : There is children who are spoiled.
Fact: No child is born spoiled. Fed the conclusions and assessments made by the observation of a behavior.

Are there children who are spoiled behave? Of course there is. There are children who whine and a new silent after her parents fulfill the request. There are children who cry out when the request is not granted. There are children who do not appreciate the simple. Now, whether this means they spoiled? No! That there are children who learn and try to get what they want to behave “threatening” to the request granted.

Children with behavior does not threaten the category including spoiled. They are children who behave choosing inappropriate and therefore their behavior should be directed and changed. Children should be taught in a way that is more effective in interacting, deliver what they want, and the feeling in them.

Myth 4 : For some children, who are fed well.
Fact: not a spoiled accurate for children. Intimate behavior but does not reflect an assessment.

Do not say spoiled the child. When you say friendly, so children tend to become spoiled. If you believe a child friendly, so you will always assume that everything is done the child is spoiled. When you see something that can be categorized as spoiled, then you as if to prove the belief that small is spoiled. Confidence in the inherent self eventually communicated to your child so that he began to see himself as a spoiled child.

Myth 5 : It is important to reprimand children when they behave spoiled.
Fact: Giving term on spoiled children or say they are fed, is not a good attitude from the parents. When you take the children fed, they hear not spoiled, but spoiled as destructive. Do you want children to feel as pampered children?

When you assume your children fed, ask yourself, behavior which makes you assess your child spoiled? Then Communicate with the earlier description of the behavior of each other information that can help you. When your child asks for something whimper, teach your child how to ask to use the language well.

Myth 6 : Children have toys that tend to be spoiled.
Fact: Myth is not correct. Have toys or items that are not abundant indications of a spoiled child. We have to see how the object is obtained, usability, and how the child’s attitude towards the things they own.

Myth 7 : a pampered child need to change.
Fact: No. That need to be changed is the parents. Parents need to change their behavior in children who threaten the desire for children is not granted. Parents need to set aside time to teach a new behavior in their children. The conflict is happening and provide time to seek a settlement that parents should do.