Comments on: Few Guidelines for Your Baby Care! http://eltoneks.com/2009/12/few-guidelines-for-your-baby-care/ Baby and Mom's Blog Mon, 29 Nov 2010 14:17:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Beatriz P http://eltoneks.com/2009/12/few-guidelines-for-your-baby-care/comment-page-1/#comment-563 Beatriz P Sat, 26 Dec 2009 20:29:18 +0000 http://eltoneks.com/2009/12/few-guidelines-for-your-baby-care/#comment-563 I saw that some one said to use your digital camera as proof, I am pretty sure that will not work in a case because digital pictures can be altered, you need to use a disposable camera, that you can have negatives with. It sounds like he never wanted to be a father to began with, nor does he sound like he deserves to be one. First, I would say you need to confront him, in the nicest way possible, preferably at a time when you are not upset with him. You can't expect things to change, unless you talk to him about it, maybe several times. Second, keep track of when and what you say to him and what he says back to you, write it all down, keep a notebook with you and after you too part write down notes. Third, also keep track of what you kids tell you, at least the older one. And their symptoms and the state they are in when returned to you, then put pictures with that. This is as much as I can give you, having never been through something like this, but I hope it can help you a little, and even if it doesn't work, it doesn't hurt to do this just in case, you never know. I hope everything works out for you. People go easy on her, cutiegirl, people make mistakes, can I suggest not coming here and judging people, everyone is human. Take a good look at yourself before you tell people about how bad they are doing. At least she is no longer with him, and if you are really a mother then you would know that even though he might be a horrible man, she will never regret it because she has two wonderful children! Help was all that she asked for not cruelty! I saw that some one said to use your digital camera as proof, I am pretty sure that will not work in a case because digital pictures can be altered, you need to use a disposable camera, that you can have negatives with. It sounds like he never wanted to be a father to began with, nor does he sound like he deserves to be one. First, I would say you need to confront him, in the nicest way possible, preferably at a time when you are not upset with him. You can't expect things to change, unless you talk to him about it, maybe several times. Second, keep track of when and what you say to him and what he says back to you, write it all down, keep a notebook with you and after you too part write down notes. Third, also keep track of what you kids tell you, at least the older one. And their symptoms and the state they are in when returned to you, then put pictures with that. This is as much as I can give you, having never been through something like this, but I hope it can help you a little, and even if it doesn't work, it doesn't hurt to do this just in case, you never know. I hope everything works out for you.

People go easy on her, cutiegirl, people make mistakes, can I suggest not coming here and judging people, everyone is human. Take a good look at yourself before you tell people about how bad they are doing. At least she is no longer with him, and if you are really a mother then you would know that even though he might be a horrible man, she will never regret it because she has two wonderful children! Help was all that she asked for not cruelty!

]]> By: Free Blog http://eltoneks.com/2009/12/few-guidelines-for-your-baby-care/comment-page-1/#comment-556 Free Blog Sat, 26 Dec 2009 18:38:30 +0000 http://eltoneks.com/2009/12/few-guidelines-for-your-baby-care/#comment-556 awesome awesome

]]> By: monkeys-love-nanners http://eltoneks.com/2009/12/few-guidelines-for-your-baby-care/comment-page-1/#comment-562 monkeys-love-nanners Fri, 25 Dec 2009 19:35:08 +0000 http://eltoneks.com/2009/12/few-guidelines-for-your-baby-care/#comment-562 The writing is a little bit erratic and confusing, but I think I like where the story is going. Maybe just clean it up a bit, and make it a little more clear? It's not something that I would normally pick up - but it's interesting. I wasn't expecting angels at first! I was so confused. Lol. Orignial. Read mine? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhPunnQm0CAviFln7JwZKBHsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20091006114511AAbljuM The writing is a little bit erratic and confusing, but I think I like where the story is going. Maybe just clean it up a bit, and make it a little more clear? It's not something that I would normally pick up – but it's interesting. I wasn't expecting angels at first! I was so confused. Lol. Orignial.

Read mine?

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]]> By: Justin http://eltoneks.com/2009/12/few-guidelines-for-your-baby-care/comment-page-1/#comment-559 Justin Fri, 25 Dec 2009 17:47:27 +0000 http://eltoneks.com/2009/12/few-guidelines-for-your-baby-care/#comment-559 This was a clinical decision, because babies born earlier than 22 weeks into pregnancy simply do not ever survive. Trying to keep it alive would be merely prolonging its unnecessary suffering. In the US, of course, the decision would be not a medical but a financial one: not "can we save this baby?" but "do you have enough money for us to save your child?" EDIT: It is true enough, however, that this issue does expose a cultural gap between doctors in the US and in the UK which i think has nothing to do with "socialised medicine." British doctors often observe that their American counterparts have a desire to attempt to prolong life at any cost - even if this causes great suffering, and even if it greatly reduces quality of life (for example, trying to extend the life of terminal cancer patients by a few months with very invasive chemotherapy or radiotherapy). In the UK, patients are usually given this option, but doctors tend to prefer paliative care and the improvement of quality of life rather than trying to add a few extra months at the cost of great pain. I don't think this is primarily cost-driven (good paliative care is not cheap), but it certainly is a cultural divide between the US and the UK that no systematic change is likely to eliminate. This was a clinical decision, because babies born earlier than 22 weeks into pregnancy simply do not ever survive. Trying to keep it alive would be merely prolonging its unnecessary suffering.

In the US, of course, the decision would be not a medical but a financial one: not "can we save this baby?" but "do you have enough money for us to save your child?"

EDIT: It is true enough, however, that this issue does expose a cultural gap between doctors in the US and in the UK which i think has nothing to do with "socialised medicine." British doctors often observe that their American counterparts have a desire to attempt to prolong life at any cost – even if this causes great suffering, and even if it greatly reduces quality of life (for example, trying to extend the life of terminal cancer patients by a few months with very invasive chemotherapy or radiotherapy). In the UK, patients are usually given this option, but doctors tend to prefer paliative care and the improvement of quality of life rather than trying to add a few extra months at the cost of great pain. I don't think this is primarily cost-driven (good paliative care is not cheap), but it certainly is a cultural divide between the US and the UK that no systematic change is likely to eliminate.

]]> By: Sublime_Savvy http://eltoneks.com/2009/12/few-guidelines-for-your-baby-care/comment-page-1/#comment-560 Sublime_Savvy Thu, 24 Dec 2009 22:11:09 +0000 http://eltoneks.com/2009/12/few-guidelines-for-your-baby-care/#comment-560 Well, your mom did sound like she was doing this all for herself because you are the mother to be and she should have at least respected the wish of what you wanted to eat and what cake you wanted. That's all you wanted to be a part of and she decided to cut you out of it. I would just mention that you're a little upset about the idea that you said that you wanted to be part of the food decision making and she completely ignored you. But that's all i would mention about it. I would get upset too if that happened. But my mom and grandma (throwing my baby shower) are letting me pick out everything, well my grandma is picking the games. You don't seem ungrateful because all you wanted was to pick the food. And she wouldn't let you even do that, even though it was YOUR baby shower. Not hers. She's the one that's decorating it, but it's not her party. EDIT: Yeah, don't let these people tell you that you're ungrateful. This was your big day and you just wanted one thing right and she didn't agree to that. And like another lady said, it doesn't matter if she had a compulsive disorder or not, she should have followed the guidlines that you wanted. And her illness isn't an excuse for her to have acted the way she did. All you wanted was the food!! Well, your mom did sound like she was doing this all for herself because you are the mother to be and she should have at least respected the wish of what you wanted to eat and what cake you wanted. That's all you wanted to be a part of and she decided to cut you out of it. I would just mention that you're a little upset about the idea that you said that you wanted to be part of the food decision making and she completely ignored you. But that's all i would mention about it. I would get upset too if that happened. But my mom and grandma (throwing my baby shower) are letting me pick out everything, well my grandma is picking the games. You don't seem ungrateful because all you wanted was to pick the food. And she wouldn't let you even do that, even though it was YOUR baby shower. Not hers. She's the one that's decorating it, but it's not her party.

EDIT: Yeah, don't let these people tell you that you're ungrateful. This was your big day and you just wanted one thing right and she didn't agree to that. And like another lady said, it doesn't matter if she had a compulsive disorder or not, she should have followed the guidlines that you wanted. And her illness isn't an excuse for her to have acted the way she did. All you wanted was the food!!

]]> By: monkeykitty83 http://eltoneks.com/2009/12/few-guidelines-for-your-baby-care/comment-page-1/#comment-565 monkeykitty83 Thu, 24 Dec 2009 11:58:10 +0000 http://eltoneks.com/2009/12/few-guidelines-for-your-baby-care/#comment-565 That's the trouble with choosing to be an adoptive parent in a broken ethically wrong system. This situation is only focusing on the individual people involved and not on how the adoption system needs to be changed. If this was Australia, from my understanding, the expectant mother would only be faced with the decision of 'do I parent my child or do I relinquish' and that choice would be prioritized in figuring out a solid parenting plan. If the parenting plan failed and relinquishment was necessary, only after that all happened would the adoptive parents come into the equation. So personally, I choose to try and change the system and not participate on an individual situational level in adoption anymore. Once upon a time I considered adoption, but after losing my son to adoption I cannot bring myself to do that kind of loss or pain on another willingly. That's the trouble with choosing to be an adoptive parent in a broken ethically wrong system. This situation is only focusing on the individual people involved and not on how the adoption system needs to be changed.

If this was Australia, from my understanding, the expectant mother would only be faced with the decision of 'do I parent my child or do I relinquish' and that choice would be prioritized in figuring out a solid parenting plan. If the parenting plan failed and relinquishment was necessary, only after that all happened would the adoptive parents come into the equation.

So personally, I choose to try and change the system and not participate on an individual situational level in adoption anymore. Once upon a time I considered adoption, but after losing my son to adoption I cannot bring myself to do that kind of loss or pain on another willingly.

]]> By: Show Breeders pwn BYBS FTW http://eltoneks.com/2009/12/few-guidelines-for-your-baby-care/comment-page-1/#comment-564 Show Breeders pwn BYBS FTW Wed, 23 Dec 2009 21:01:53 +0000 http://eltoneks.com/2009/12/few-guidelines-for-your-baby-care/#comment-564 There are two kinds of bladder stones in dogs, and in either kind genetics often plays a big part. Struvite stones are often found in female dogs, are usually the result of chronic bladder infections, and recurrence can be prevented by regular urine checks to test for infection. Oxalate stones are more often found in male dogs and caused by genetics or inappropriate diet (like, maybe, cat food and table scraps). There are specific breeds that are more prone to these. Dogs with oxalate stones almost always have recurrence within 3-5years. Literature supports the need for prescription diet, but as far as I know, they are all poor quality ingredient diets, like Hills and Iams. These dogs need low protein, low ash diet, with low magnesium, phosphorous and calcium levels, which can make trying to create a home diet pretty challenging. Canned food will help prevent recurrence by increasing fluid intake. It's important that these dogs be provided with plenty of water, and given regular exercise, as well as frequent opportunity to urinate. The more often the dog pees, the less likely the stones are to get big enough to cause obstruction. Good luck There are two kinds of bladder stones in dogs, and in either kind genetics often plays a big part. Struvite stones are often found in female dogs, are usually the result of chronic bladder infections, and recurrence can be prevented by regular urine checks to test for infection. Oxalate stones are more often found in male dogs and caused by genetics or inappropriate diet (like, maybe, cat food and table scraps). There are specific breeds that are more prone to these. Dogs with oxalate stones almost always have recurrence within 3-5years. Literature supports the need for prescription diet, but as far as I know, they are all poor quality ingredient diets, like Hills and Iams. These dogs need low protein, low ash diet, with low magnesium, phosphorous and calcium levels, which can make trying to create a home diet pretty challenging. Canned food will help prevent recurrence by increasing fluid intake. It's important that these dogs be provided with plenty of water, and given regular exercise, as well as frequent opportunity to urinate. The more often the dog pees, the less likely the stones are to get big enough to cause obstruction. Good luck

]]> By: Blogger http://eltoneks.com/2009/12/few-guidelines-for-your-baby-care/comment-page-1/#comment-555 Blogger Wed, 23 Dec 2009 19:08:50 +0000 http://eltoneks.com/2009/12/few-guidelines-for-your-baby-care/#comment-555 I can't wait to have a baby! I can’t wait to have a baby!

]]> By: smart-doctor-egypt http://eltoneks.com/2009/12/few-guidelines-for-your-baby-care/comment-page-1/#comment-561 smart-doctor-egypt Wed, 23 Dec 2009 15:33:26 +0000 http://eltoneks.com/2009/12/few-guidelines-for-your-baby-care/#comment-561 this article is too long first! ppl find it tiring to read so i hope u make it short and sweet next time. I am a muslim woman and i am being really really honest with u when I am saying that the status of woman in islam is very high! ppl who disagree with me just...dont...know. and one doubt all non muslims have is how do we stand being covered (abused, discriminated..u name it!). my ans is that we LOVE to cover since it makes us feel modest and also keeps away unwanted attention. and i definitely agree that women are SO not degraded.thank you this article is too long first! ppl find it tiring to read so i hope u make it short and sweet next time. I am a muslim woman and i am being really really honest with u when I am saying that the status of woman in islam is very high! ppl who disagree with me just…dont…know. and one doubt all non muslims have is how do we stand being covered (abused, discriminated..u name it!). my ans is that we LOVE to cover since it makes us feel modest and also keeps away unwanted attention. and i definitely agree that women are SO not degraded.thank you

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